Learning to be a mother again

20 Jul

Today was a great day.For the past five years of Keanen’s life, I have worked or been in school consistently. There has not been a single week that I could spend to learn the details of my child’s life. Today I celebrate a month of getting back to my motherhood roots. Yes it’s not all fun and roses, but its amazing to see what I have missed. That’s not to say I don’t miss my work children. There is not a day I don’t think about the crazy things they did and said. But, it is great that I have been given an opportunity to take a breath and spend sometime with my two most precious gifts.

Today I got to play pretend with Carmen. For three hours while her brother played outside, we pretend played: put babies to bed, puppies in timeout, made dinner, changed diapers, played hide and seek etc. It was the most time I have had to spend with her alone. She actually talks even more when her brother is not around if that even makes sense. And the beauty of it, was I did not hear her cry or throw a tantrum even once. The other day we were at the tailors place and Carmen was having a grand ole tantrum because she had missed nap time. It went on for about two mins and a lady came by and said to my friend Dianna in Bambara” Why does she not beat her?” It made me laugh to think how a tantrum is viewed so differently in different cultures. As long as Carmen gets her nap, she is an angel until something sets her off. Seriously some days I think God sent me a 15-year-old in a 2-year-old body 🙂

When Keanen came in after playing with Numa, our “guard”, he handed me a flower that he had found on his “safari”. He then showed me a dance he came up with. Seriously this kid has some moves especially on the lower half and his rhythm isn’t that bad either. He came up to me and said, ” Mom, I love you forever”. Sweet child. I think Grandma Marilou had a lot to contribute to the sweet nature of this child. Much of his early life was spent in her arms and tutelage.

I am blessed to be able to spend some time with these two devils and angels, all in one. I am slowly learning what truly makes my kids tick. I am learning what they love, what they hate, what drives them and how they can twist things to get their way. I am happy to have the time to know them before Kean starts school in September.


Posted by on July 20, 2011 in Past Posts


6 responses to “Learning to be a mother again

  1. Susan

    July 21, 2011 at 05:36


    I love this post! Being a good mother is the mist difficult yet most rewarding job of all.

    I also enjoyed hearing about the different viewpoint of a different culture.

    Thank you for sharing with all of us!


  2. James A

    July 26, 2011 at 17:21

    Obviously I am a father and not a mother, but your remarks in this post reflect the greatest aspect of my starting my own business, it has given me the flexibility to be an intimate part of my children’s lives, and now that I have that I wouldn’t change it for anything, even though greater financial opportunities might exist outside our home. This is where true wealth is.

    • Marissa

      July 27, 2011 at 00:25

      James that is the sweetest thing I have heard. You and Shelby have been great teachers to me as I started motherhood. I learned many things on how to raise my children with discipline yet love them all at once. Thank you for being a great friend

  3. Shelby Stewart Arrington

    July 26, 2011 at 17:25

    Man, you should write a book! I love this post. Just about made me cry.

  4. Marissa

    July 27, 2011 at 00:26

    Shelby you are so sweet. I’m glad you guys are reading this.


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